Some women are really lucky and breeze through the time of the month and the menopause without some much as a hair out of place. For the rest of us, we can only wish.
You may not even realise straight away you are going through the perimenopause, those years before full-on menopause happens. For some women there is a feeling of being unsettled. The odd hot or cold flush happens. Periods might become irregular or change in their habits. Suddenly you might feel tired more often. Worse still you might sometimes go off sex for a while. There are other symptoms that your body is changing such as worsening PMT, aches and pains and irritability to name a few more. Anxiety is also common as hormones go up, down and take themselves off somewhere hotter than you for their holidays.
If you have any changes physically or mentally which impact on your daily life then I urge you to go and see your doctor and see if anything can be done. Sometimes, depending on the problem, there is an easy solution or at the very least something to help lessen your symptoms to a more manageable level. This will also make sure it is the perimenopause and not something more serious.
On top of that you can also help yourself by talking to your partner, family and those closest to you about how you feel. Don’t keep it inside and brave it out unnecessarily…this may just lead to misunderstandings in your relationships which can cause more problems. If your hormones are haywire you may be acting as if you have a bad case of PMT and those that love you need to know what is happening. It is a natural process every woman goes through but that doesn’t mean it isn’t difficult sometimes.
You can also help yourself by being kind to yourself. Give yourself a weekly home pamper session. Get out in the fresh air and walk off any negative emotions. Do something which makes you happy every day. Dance to music you love. Laugh often. Use alternative therapies such as aromatherapy, sound therapy, crystals or herbal supplements to support the process but do check with your doctor about any possible interactions with medicines you already take first. You can find articles I have written on this blog about living with perimenopause and alternative health therapy support here.
Embrace this new milestone in your life. Tick off a few things on your bucket list. Get a new hobby or interest to distract yourself. Do some volunteering. Start meditating – wonderful for bringing balance back to your emotions.
Above all, realise you have nothing to feel ashamed or awkward about and find yourself a good doctor who is well versed in women’s health.
Be happy, be content, be yourself again.
Don’t suffer in silence.